After having the
opportunity to speak with two elders a few weeks ago, one being a Lakota living
in Hot Springs, South Dakota from the Rosebud and Pine Ridge reservations and
the other who is Chiricahua Apache (one of my own tribes), Blackfeet and Cherokee, regarding the two spirit tradition,
which some tribes evidence during the bow and basket ceremony. We had a very
interesting discussion, the background of which follows below.
In 2010, I was
approached by an author who writes m/m fiction who planned a “Native American”
story. Naturally it would center on two or more male characters in a
relationship of some sort which would eventually include a sexual one. The
author had general questions about Native Americans and the “blood brother”
bond which they had heard could include a sexual relationship. They also
queried regarding the “berdache” tradition (berdache is actually a non-native
word) as they considered what area, what people and what time period to set
their story in.
They inquired about
research materials, and referenced a few works from non-native writers, and
when I saw who they were I had to give my honest opinion. These were European
descended writers some of whom, which was generally agreed upon among natives,
had no true inside insight or knowledge of natives beyond what they had
observed and superimposed their own religious and culture interpretations upon.
One writer regularly used the word “squaw” which is a highly offensive term to
many Native Americans used by French explorers to describe Indian women which
means “c***” or “vagina”, though it is originally descended from the Algonquin
word for “woman”. Just the same,
considering it is a very controversial word to many, how could anyone accept
such derogatory remarks about one’s people?
Eventually, the
author gave me an overview of their story asking for insights. I pointed out
the scenes and/or actions of a character which wouldn’t take place in a native
tribe, and the fact some natives would not look kindly on someone trying to
write on a topic about which they knew so little even if the author considered
it "imaginary" or "fiction." Offensive to us mostly means
something we would not advocate or support, but after long years of
misinterpretation and misinformation about us, it is something we are
unfortunately used to. The opinions I expressed were general, as I believe an
author can write whatever they wish, but understandably should consider
reaction and responsibility regarding the work. A long story short: the author
became quite irritated and defensive, though I was only giving her an honest
answer, which is the only kind I ever choose to give.
For some topics,
Native American oral tradition is the proper source, if you are fortunate to be
able to do so, and are trusted with information. There are few extensive and
factual documents by native people which have been made about “two spirited”
people written by two spirits. Two spirits are called the Dinéh (Navajo) refer
to them as nà dleehé or ‘one who is ‘transformed’, the Lakota (Sioux) as winkte,
the Mohave as alyha, the Zuni as lhamana, the Omaha as mexoga, the Aleut and
Kodiak as achnucek, the Zapotec as ira’ muxe, the Cheyenne as he man eh, etc.
(Roscoe, 1988). Some tribes had different names for two-spirited men and
women.” I had explained that much of what I knew was through that oral
tradition but it was sound, as well as some titles of academic work. There are
some scholarly works wit pertinent information also, but the author I spoke
with wasn’t interested in the factual for the facts part, but rather to take
some aspects and change them to suit their story. That is another issue
altogether: “creative license”, but back to the Two Spirit tradition.
I presented this
incident to the two elders, and a couple of other natives near my age, along
with my son who was listening in. The
female elder deferred to the male but she smiled to herself looking down,
perhaps knowing what he was going to say. I’d watched his face and reactions as
I recounted what happened.
He is an older man of
indeterminate age who answers, “Old enough”, if you ask him what that number
is. He looks a bit to the side with a smile as mischievous as a child’s. A
multiple decorated veteran of two wars and featured in a number of history
books both Native American and military, he’s well known and respected across
the world, for like myself, he’s travelled from one end of this earth to the
other.
His arms had
continued to rest folded across his chest, which is his usual stance, sitting
or standing, but I’d heard his indrawn breath, it’s slow release. I saw a brief
hand come up to his brown brow before returning to its place. The jaw had
tightened at one point. The eyes rose hard and focused to a point above my head
but soon slid back down to the side. He laughed a little, as I finished.
“You did better than
I would’ve.” He laughed again.
The Elder speaks:
(Note: Among the
Lakota, such ones are called winkte. To pronounce it correctly, it’s not
exactly two syllables as it appears, but has an almost subvocal, gutteral
“drop” after the “K”, making it sound more like: “wink-(kuh)-tay”.)
“We people have
mysteries. Things we cannot explain. Things we don’t know how they came to be
or how they stay alive but it’s all part of life. For some things we have
legends and tales passed down from our ancestors, and they’re enough though now
we have science and all kinds of stuff which explain how things work inside. Or
they try to anyway. There are still mysteries and will always be. There are
some things you don’t need answers to in order to have a happy life or just get
by even.
There have always
been winkte. Even now we have winkte who live on the reservation and they’re
accepted just like anybody else. There’s no need to comment on them, make up
tales about them or treat them badly because that’s just the way they are.
That’s how they were born. If a man wants to live as a woman and take a male
partner, then it’s his choice, and he is the woman he wants to be, doing
woman’s things that feel good to him.
That’s the way it’s
always been with the People but when the black robes came (the European
settlers with their Christian religion. The Catholics are directly referred to
first as “black robes” but that term came to include all Christians) they saw
something they didn’t understand. Well, they thought they understood it and put
their own words to it, words like “evil”, “wrong” and “sin”. But there is no
evil among the People. Things happen. People are certain ways. That’s just
life. We don’t try to force our own thoughts or beliefs on anybody else, but
that’s what the black robes did to us.
Then you had some of
the People converting to the black robe religion and they too tried to say
certain things were “evil” and “sin”, but it’s not our way to judge others.
It’s the white man’s God’s way. Every body should just be how they are and be
allowed to. I can be happy with very little because their definition does not
apply to me. They might be unhappy with what I had. I think that’s why they are
so unhappy and so far from the earth. They’re always looking at someone else
and trying to change them when they don’t really know themselves in the first
place.”
To understand the two
spirit tradition, you have to try to understand the People themselves and not
place other cultures terms or definitions upon it. Take it as it is. In some
ways, in both the literal and traditional sense, there is no “gay” among
natives. If someone born with a male outward appearance feels they are female,
then they are then female to us. It’s as simple as that. No other psychological
terms or interpretations. That is the tradition of most Native American tribes.
Same thing with a
person born with a female appearance, if they choose to be a man, then they are
a man. This is one of the reasons you will find no records of such in certain
tribes. In the spirit of modernization, what a person chooses to term
themselves is their choice, for “two spirit” can refer to a range of realities:
intersex, transsexual, transgendered, hermaphrodite, gay, lesbian, but if you
are using to the term or applying to it someone, make sure you ask or define
clearly and respect that answer you are given or the silence you receive. Life
is simply life. Sexuality is a part of it, but not central to being.
In this modern age,
of course and especially with globalization, in order to try to understand
others, people naturally apply or assign their own definitions, but be careful
and considerate. Respect other people’s cultures and don’t just ask the
questions, but accept the answers. Accept there are differences, but there need
be no dividers.
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